Backing Out Of Bridesmaids Duties
Being selected as a bridesmaid is a distinct honor. The bride to be is essentially asking for support and encouragement from the chosen bridesmaids during her bridal journey. For a majority of brides, selecting the bridal party can be easy because usually the bridesmaids play a significant role in the bride's life.
However, once selected as a bridesmaid, this individual should determine if financially and/or emotionally this is a responsibility that can be fulfilled. Financially, a bridesmaid is responsible for costs that include wedding day attire, plus alterations, hair/makeup, unless otherwise stated by bride, travel and lodging as well as gifts for the bridal shower and/or the wedding. If it is suspected the financial requirements is overwhelming have a honest conversation with the bride as soon as possible. Perhaps a resolution can be reached and the bride maybe willing to split a portion of the cost. If there isn't a resolution, then, express your gratitude for being selected and notify the bride, in person, of your decision to withdraw as a bridesmaid.
Here's the tricky part, what if the reason to withdraw from the wedding party is emotional? Make the determination of whether this is an issue that can be resolved with a conversation or simply letting go of the issue all together. The conversation should be non-confrontational as well as non-defensive. Honestly, some issues may not be able to be resolved. Attempt to eliminate any unnecessary stress on the bride. If there isn't a resolution, with kindness, respect and in person, notify the bride of the decision.