Chelseay says, she knew! She knew right away that JaVaris was exactly what she needed and exactly what she wanted. And, although she believed JaVaris felt the same way, she confesses to feeling as if he doubted that she was really into him, like "this is a little too good to be true." But, it wasn't!
Separated by distance early in their relationship, Chelseay and JaVaris relied on faith, patience and openness with one another to help them endure the obstacles. Being newly stationed at a military base in England, JaVaris had time to reflect on the life he wished to have with Chelseay. In that reflection, both agreed to only express their love for the other when a commitment had been established.
Chelseay expressed she felt JaVaris was determined to uphold their agreement. However, in a text message he sent to her, JaVaris acknowledges the progress they had made in their growth together, seeks her patience with him, professes his love for her and requested that she not say those words back. "It was as if he wanted me to know he loved me, but didn't want to break the agreement we had made. And, of course, knowing that he loved me that early on trumped any agreement we had made previously."
"I knew he was the one because he is exactly what I prayed for, all the way down to his flaws. We have the same morals, values and ideals, but still have differences that give us balance. He is strong in areas where I'm weak, and I have strength in the areas of his weaknesses", Chelseay so lovingly conveys. She also strongly feels this aspect of their unity was seen early in their friendship and deepen with their connection.
A connection built on a solid friendship, rooted in togetherness from hours of movie watching, outdoor activities, and cooking, and one that has grown from the years of creating special memories.
That connection led to 'the moment'! While still stationed in England, JaVaris spent months planning the moment he would ask Chelseay the question. Intentionally, creating circumstances in which he would be ready for the next step, Chelseay put the idea of marriage aside and focused on other life events.
In December of 2017, arrangements we made for Chelseay to join JaVaris in London, England for New Year's. Filled with excitement and nerves being the first flight and first trip out of the country, Chelseay arrived in London to a fun-filled, sightseeing mission on aimed at taking in all that London had to offer.
On New Year's Day, JaVaris and Chelseay set out walking to a location that was a total mystery to Chelseay. Their walk took them by countless attractions in London and provided numerous opportunities to take photographs. The surprise was tickets to the Aqua Shard. "I was captivated by the surprise and the views from over 70 floors in the air. It was absolutely stunning. After catching some of the scenery, we had a mini photo shoot under a beautifully decorated arch. He surprised me in front of hundreds of people and proposed. I was SHOCKED to say the least."
All of those moments, led to this moment. On April 6, 2018, in downtown Birmingham at the Jefferson County Courthouse, Chelseay and JaVaris had an intimate, private and classic marital ceremony. The ceremony was just the way the couple wanted it to be, just the two of them. Lacking the desire to be the center of attention, they opted for a situation "that would be timeless for our family and memorable for the two of us."